Dear big sister,
Happy New Year. I’m glad to hear you’re staying on top of screenings, wellness, and family health. I truly wish you strength and resilience as you navigate your health journey—and I’m cheering for you, with extra side dishes of broccoli sprouts for good measure.
First, about the unannounced visit: the moment you arrived at the door, the scene was startling. We were awakened from a quiet moment, and I hurried to check the door and the security app, worried about an intruder. Your son in the stroller, and the impression of someone circling the property, left us rattled. I’m not even certain who accompanied you that day, and I know these memories are hard. We value safety and boundaries here, and we always try to handle things with care and caution, especially when the situation feels unpredictable.
Second, about the email you sent afterward: reading your words through my own lens of experience was disquieting, and I want to acknowledge that. I have worked hard to create a bright, healthy living space for my daughter and me—things we value, like climate-conscious choices and a calm home environment—not as props for anything else, but because we deserve peace and stability. Our priority is clear communication, mutual respect, and showing up for each other in ways that heal rather than erode trust.
We both carry heavy histories, and I know the past ten years have been complicated by miscommunications and hurt. I want to focus on what we can do now to protect our well-being and to repair trust, if that’s possible. Please know I care about you and your health; I want you to feel supported, and I also need to protect my daughter’s sense of safety and our family’s boundaries.
Let’s move forward with gentleness, honesty, and a commitment to reducing fear-based narratives that pull us apart. If we are to re-engage as family, I would welcome conversations that stick to present needs and avoid projecting worst-case scenarios about cancer or abandonment. We both deserve a future where love and care, not suspicion, guide our steps.
Warm wishes to you and all who care about you,
Your little sister