Subject: Final word on our silence and this latest visit
Good morning Ramona,
Happy New Year to you as well. I’m choosing to be direct, because years of miscommunication and unannounced visits have created a mess that helps no one, least of all my daughter and me.
First, the unannounced visit and the welfare concerns you triggered through the police were disruptive and distressing. The door was monitored, the property was not left unguarded, and we were awakened by actions that felt invasive and unnecessary. My teen and I deserve privacy and safety, and this isn’t how family should engage when boundaries are in place.
Second, about how you found our whereabouts: I need a clear, accountable explanation. Who shared our address? what dates and methods were used? and who in your party actually accompanied you? You’ve said Valencia stayed back on the road; you’ve said you used your own contacts; you’ve told us different versions. I am not asking for assumptions—I am asking for specifics, in writing, with dates and names, so we all understand what happened and can avoid repeating this in the future.
Third, your suggestion that I seek therapy and that you can help with that is noted. I am a healthy, responsible mother who runs a home education program and a small business, and I have repeatedly demonstrated boundaries that keep my daughter safe and supported. If you have concerns about my well-being, bring evidence, not insinuations. I have trusted professionals who have supported me in the past, and I will continue to do so when necessary.
Finally, I won’t reopen a dialogue that has repeatedly crossed boundaries without meaningful, respectful contact. I am not unwilling to communicate, but any future conversations must be on my terms: private, voluntary, and with prior notice. I expect any future contact to respect our family’s safety, privacy, and the legal boundaries in place regarding homeschooling and child welfare.
Wishing you calm and clarity in the new year, and that you Channel care, not coercion, when you think about us.
With respect,
42yo