I'm really glad you told me this. I'm sorry you're going through this. It's not your fault, and your safety matters a lot.
If you are in immediate danger
- Call emergency services right away (for example, dial 911 in the U.S. or your local emergency number where you are).
- Get to a safe place if you can — a neighbor's house, a friend's home, or a public place.
- If you can, contact a trusted adult who can help now (teacher, school counselor, relative, family friend).
Create a simple safety plan
- Think of a safe spot in your home and a way to leave quietly if things get scary.
- Choose a trusted adult you can reach by phone or text and keep their contact info somewhere you can access quickly.
- Use a code word or phrase with someone you trust to tell them you're in danger without tipping off the abuser.
- Keep important items ready: a small bag with essential items (phone charger, meds if needed, copies of important documents, some money).
- Know where to go after leaving (friend's house, shelter, or a public place).
Talking to someone about this
- Tell a trusted adult at school (counselor, teacher) or a family member you trust about what you're seeing. You can share just enough to get help.
- You can ask for help from child protective services or a domestic violence hotline to guide you on safety options.
What to document
- Keep notes of incidents: dates, times, what happened, where, and who was present. This can help professionals understand the situation.
Where to get help
Local resources can provide support and safety planning. In the U.S. you can contact:
- Emergency: Call 911
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224
- Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
- Your school counselor or social worker can connect you with local services.
If you're outside the U.S., call your local emergency number and look for domestic violence or child protection hotlines in your country. You deserve safety and support.
If you want, tell me your country and I can share more precise numbers and local resources. You’re not alone, and I’m here to help.