Introduction
Sexual positions vary greatly and can be explored by consenting adults. This guide explains common positions in a respectful, non-graphic way, focusing on comfort, consent, and safety.
Consent, communication, and safety
Before trying any new position, talk with your partner about boundaries and comfort. Use lubrication if needed to reduce friction. Use condoms or other contraception to reduce STI risk and pregnancy. If anyone feels pain or discomfort, stop and adjust.
Common positions (non-graphic descriptions)
- Missionary: One partner lies on their back while the other lies between their legs, facing them. Adjust leg height and angle with pillows to find a comfortable position. Communicate about pace and depth.
- Cowgirl (woman on top): The receptive partner sits or rises on top, controlling depth and pace. This position allows eye contact and easy communication, with options to adjust angle for comfort.
- Doggy style (rear entry): One partner is on hands and knees while the other enters from behind. Angles can be changed by shifting hips or adding pillows for support. Discuss comfort and safety to avoid pain.
- Spooning (side by side): Both lie on their sides with one partner behind the other. A gentle, lower-friction option that’s good for longer sessions; pillows can help alignment and comfort.
- Seated facing: Both partners sit facing each other, often with one on the edge of a bed or on a chair. This supports eye contact and pacing together and can be easier with height differences.
- Standing or near a stable surface: Partners stand facing or at an angle to each other, using a wall or sturdy furniture for balance. This can be quick to try but may require good balance and clear communication.
Accessibility and adapting ideas
If mobility, injuries, or flexibility affect you, there are many gentle ways to be intimate. Use cushions, adjust positions, and talk openly to find options that feel comfortable.