It’s normal to have questions about your body, and you don’t need to feel ashamed. Masturbation is something people generally do privately. Doing it with a friend involves sexual activity, so at 13 it’s safest not to do it together.
A few important things to remember:
- You can say no or change your mind at any time. A friend should never pressure, dare, threaten, or guilt you.
- Don’t touch someone else or let them touch you unless you freely want that—and remember that laws about sexual activity involving people under 18 vary. When in doubt, keep clear boundaries and ask a trusted adult.
- Never make, send, or share nude or sexual pictures or videos. They can spread beyond your control and may create serious problems.
If this has already happened and you feel uncomfortable, confused, or pressured, move to a safe place and talk with a trusted adult, such as a parent or caregiver, school counselor, or doctor. You deserve to feel safe, and asking for help is okay.